Being the ‘fat friend’ is tricky. Now being the fat friend doesn’t have to be a bad thing, but your circle determines how ‘fat friend’ translates.
If you have friends that do not hesitate to be condescending and throw snide comments your way just to gather a few laughs, then you have to dump them with the same grace and skill it takes to dispose of a huge bag of trash.
Friends like this do not let you be yourself, even on days you’d rather be alone or quiet, you have to keep being in high spirits around them.
Sometimes you even find yourself making self-deprecating jokes just to seem cool to them and score some cheap points.
Here are a few things to do if you are in the company of such friends.
- Going shopping with friends: You walk into the mall with your friends. Enter a clothing store, and they start picking out things that they like. But you don’t. Not because there aren’t things you like, but these clothes are not your size. All you can find that fit are accessories. So you are relegated to holding their purses and shopping bags.
It’s not fun, but here’s what you can do, go shopping in stores that carry your size and make sure they all come along. Put on a show for them while they cheer you on. Make it fun and see it as a way to go to more stores and spend more quality time with them!
- Taking pictures: You never are in the mood for photographs. Unless your friends never want to take pictures with you- in which case you have no business being friends with them- you shouldn’t worry about being in pictures and thinking you don’t deserve to be. Take photos, make memories and be happy.
- Relationships and dating: You always worry that you will always be the second fiddle, the DUFF (designated ugly fat friend) and nobody wants you. So when a guy makes his intentions known, you start having doubts about him because you are used to your friends being picked over you.
You should know that even though it might hurt, everybody, including you, has a particular ‘spec’ and you only want someone who wants all of you because you are what they’ve been searching for. So don’t let paranoia cause you to ruin a good thing. Let yourself be loved.
- Pity party: Don’t go around thinking your friends are with you because they pity you. Has it ever occurred to you that maybe you are awesome and your friendship means as much to them as it means to you? Enjoy time with them. You are loved.
You may want to think of yourself as ‘fat’, but with good and wholesome friends, there’s no such thing as the ‘fat friend’. Just friend.
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